Is there a right time end a therapy?

Is there a right time end a therapy?

Is there a right time end a therapy?

Throughout my journey with Guy , I’ve always been involved with therapists of one discipline or another. The vast majority of them have been amazing , demonstrating their dedication to the cause at every turn , acting as my anchor in the storm and enabling me to retain my sanity when frustration was about to envelop me.


Many of them have empowered me and truly changed my life, teaching me about practices and approaches I would never have previously dreamed of.


There is a misconception many parents fall into believing that just because someone is trained  as a therapist , their offer and the way they work will suit you or your child all the time. 

That’s not to say that they are bad or poor therapists: rather that their approach doesn’t sit comfortably with you. There are many different paths or methodologies a therapist can follow in order to achieve a desired outcome, and it may just be that the way they work doesn’t gel with the way you do . 


Consequently, choosing someone who is suitable for your purposes can be a hit or miss , particularly when you’re starting out and have no real knowledge or understanding of what it is you’re looking for and a clear plan on how you should get there.


Ending a therapy is an emotional process and we often don’t always feel ready to do so especially as we have been in a certain therapy for years and find it hard to end similar to any relationship that doesn’t benefit us anymore.


I fell into this exact same paradigm: I had a FloorTime therapist for 6 years, the first three years were beneficial, I have seen many changes and progress throughout this period so I continued on.

The following  three years weren’t that good, the same methods and materials were repeated and the benefit to my son was minimal – and yet I found it hard to end .

I was dependent on that therapist and was blinded thinking that I would be lost if we stopped the sessions.


Once I stopped the sessions I was emotionally free to assess and rethink the right path to progress, I was proud of myself for having the strength to stop the session while keeping in good relationship with the therapist.

There are few red flags parents should consider while their child is undergoing any type of therapy or treatment.


– If the therapist avoids your questions or if you are not happy with the answers you are getting when discussing the goals or program to achieve targets 

 – Bad communication with the therapist-  you know you’ll never be able to communicate with him or her openly.

– Therapist disrespects your child or being impatient when the child is misbehaving or not being cooperative. – after all it’s the therapist job to help you deal with the emotions that are the basis of this behavior, your child might not be able to verbalize the way he or she feels towards the therapy and or the therapist and the expectation is that the therapist will be able to deal with it in a creative way.


– The Therapist wants to keep the child in therapy services for indefinite time periods with ill -defined goals –every therapy or treatment are due to achieve progress and they should end once the targets are met.


–  There is no actual program or progress summary the therapists repeats the same content of sessions frequently without making changes or adding challenges to the program – remember, if the therapist doesn’t challenge the child in a positive way there will not be a progress.


-You reach a plateau- if you feel that the sessions are not beneficial stop it for a couple of weeks or a month to let you assess the situation and check for yourself the benefit of the treatment.


It’s recommended to have a diary to record the progress made.  A diary is an excellent tool to monitor the progress on a weekly basis for you to feel on top of the therapy goals and targets, assess where you are now and where do you see the therapy going towards.


Treat the therapy as a project you manage to get results in a defined period of time. You should ask yourself the following questions:

What are the next actions?

Am I going in the right way to get the results I want to get?

Is my child cooperating well with the therapist?

Is there a shorter way to achieve my goals?

Do I see the progress I anticipated to see before the treatment started? If not why not?

What are the ‘road blocks’ in the therapy?  

what can I do today to remove the obstacles and get a crystal clear view regarding the therapy or treatment’s goals and progress made?


It is natural to lose control over the therapy goals especially when the therapy extends over years and there a mutual trust with the therapist, the therapist should be honest enough to stop the sessions when it’s time to do so however in many cases it’s not being done and the treatment can prolong for years without much progress. I hope that after reading this article you will have the tools to cut the cord when its time to do so.


Always remember one door closes and another opens it’s true for so many situations in life and especially when it comes to therapy treatments and relationships.


5 tips to help with Sensory Processing difficulties

5 tips to help with Sensory Processing difficulties



 When it comes to sensory challenges there are few ideas that help parents to understand their child better and engage in a fun activity that let the child express their feeling and feel in control of the situation.

Here are some ideas from my latest chat with Lindsey Biel,   

  1. Tactile – de-sensitization : play dough and give the child a cookie cutter , any tool and slowly introduce the touch feeling, Or when using finger paint use a glove , brush and work towards sense of control.
  2. Auditory : use sound reducing ear-muffs which should be available for the difficult noisy experiences.                          In addition implement therapeutic listening -an approach that recognizes that listening goes well beyond the ears and is a function of the brain .
  3. Smell – throw out the house hold garbage on a daily basis.
  4. Vestibular system : Make sure to create opportunities to move at times that are appropriate , like jumping on the trampoline 20 minutes prior to dinner ,so that at dinner time the child won’t have the need to jump around.
  5. proprioceptive input : Have your child help you take out the washing from the washing machine or push the grocery cart at the shop.

Listen to my chat with Lindsey Biel to learn more 

5 tips to learn to tell the Time

5 tips to learn to tell the Time

Telling the time is an important skill in our our everyday life BUT sometimes it’s tricky to learn .

  1. Start by introducing time concepts of morning , afternoon and evening . Learning which activities relate to certain parts of the day for example the meals we have through the day.










2.   Counting until 60 and knowing to count by 5   5,10,15,20  ……..60. (Skip counting) . This helps children to understand better addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division.

3.  Learning that the long minute hand represents the minutes and the short Hours hand represents the hours.

4. Practicing telling the time on a White Board- this can be done taking turns to make it more playful.










5.  Using our body to represent the time .  

In this example I have used a Long sock to represent the minutes and a short sock to represent the hour .

Combing the body-mind connection by working on the proprioceptive sense.  

Through working on our senses we grasp the concept of telling the time much better and also have a better understanding of our body as well as working on directionality and our spatial orientation which also contribute for better reading and better hand writing .


What is therapeutic listening ?

What is therapeutic listening ?

Therapeutic listening is an approach that recognises that listening goes well beyond the ears and is a function of the brain .

The way we listen affects the way we behave , and so to that end therapeutic listening uses sound training together with sensory integrative techniques that don’t just stimulate the auditory system but also help rewire those parts of the brain that enable us to hear . What’s more it can help people who exhibit a myriad of behaviour types .

Therapeutic listening uses electronically modified music with rhythmic sound patterns in order to stimulate and trigger the self organising capacities of the nervous system , and as such , a person’s progression through the program will depend on how they respond at any particular point  . In other words , its adapted to a person’s specific needs.    We did the home based program and did it twice a day  while doing a floor time activity or while doing a physical activity . Our experience with therapeutic listening  showed improvements in many areas  such as : *better hand-eye coordination which resulted in better hand writing , better coordinated movements , better concentration , less anxiety as well as better articulation .

I am a certified therapeutic listening practitioner and recommend you use the Vital Link website to find a practitioner in your area  .

What is Floortime Theraphy ?

What is Floortime Theraphy ?

Floor time therapy is the notion of following the child’s lead and engaging with the child at his level.
Therapists teach parents how to direct children into a meaningful and complex interaction which is called ‘opening and closing circles of communication.
This therapy  changed our lives , as our son at the age of 4 had a very limited vocabulary and through the sessions we have managed to introduce new concepts and words.
The speech and language therapy he was doing at the time did not seem to have a positive affect on him and his articulation was poor as there was not much engagement from his side at the time.

The therapy method  was created by Dr. Stanley Greenspan it was developed in order to help children communicate as well as reach higher level of thinking.
Following the child lead and participate in a play and imagination world is a fun way children become “problem solvers ” and can reach higher levels of studying.

Floortime therapy target the improvement  in the following areas of communication and personal development:

– Self-regulation and interest in the world – many children on the spectrum have rigid thoughts and actions which limits their progress.
– Intimacy, or engagement in human relations
– Two-way communication
– Complex communication
– Emotional ideas and development of letting the child express feelings and emotions with no boundaries.
– Emotional thinking and logical thinking.
– Floortime helps the child make logical connections : for instance if  the child is playing with a car and wants to stack the car in a small cupboard ….you don’t just open the cupboard for
the child but try to create an obstacle like blocking the front of the cupboard to let the child solve the ‘problem’ using communication skills forcing a thinking process and asking relevant questions.

The parent should remain objective playful and never judgmental as this will send the wrong message to the child, the idea to follow the child lead is to help with engaging the communication.

The child could see that the parent takes interest and is engaged in the activity.

We learnt the importance of back and forth communication at the time of play and the negative effect of plastic modern flashy toys with digital sounds that destruct the child’s attention and isolate the child further.

During our sessions Guy was developing his capacity to stay in a continuous flow of interaction, engage in shared problem solving and express his ideas in pretend play and conversation with the therapist and Tommy (his younger brother).

Stanley Greenspan You tube video:

Resources for a Sensory Diet

Resources for a Sensory Diet

In this post I’ve gathered different resources that I found helpful through the years, some can be made at home with a bit of effort and others can be purchased on a small budget.

Resources for hand-eye coordination :
  • Hitting a ball hanging from the ceiling ,bunting the ball ,catching it /hitting with a plastic tennis racket

hitting a ball

hitting a ball









  • For the following resource you would need a tennis ball, tweezers and small pieces of paper:
    Get a standard tennis ball, cut it in the middle and them crunch small pieces of paper at the side.
  • Ask your child  to hold the ball with one hand .opening the ‘mouth of the ball’ and with the other hand insert the pieces of paper using the
  • tweezers.


tennis ball eye hand coordination

Tennis ball eye -hand coordination








  • Throwing balls into a bucket- you could use a small ping-pong ball or tennis ball together with a small bucket you can find at home, I have used different types of textures sizes hardness and colors to add another layer to the sensory input.
  • Prickly pile up- was a hit in my household when each boy in his turn tried to “pile up” another hedgehog on top of the others making sure they keep “hanging on”



Resources for Spatial awareness :
  • Spinning –  the feeling of spinning around and getting used to the movement is very important in the way the child develop the spatial awareness this could be done with a desk chair or with the ‘Astronaut board’  below as part of the program.
  • Directionality  : drawing arrows ,mazes and following the direction with arrows helps understanding directionality as your child will physically add the arrows where appropriate.



astronout board

Primitive Reflexes- (as part of occupational therapist plan) :
Gross motor activity :
  • Jumping on a trampoline /Bosu  – also helps with spatial awareness
  • Jumping from one hula hoop to another- lay 3 to 4 hula hoops on the floor and get your child to jump.
  • Skipping : skipping can be a tricky task for some kids : we first practiced jumping and then learnt the arm motion with poi –socks ( you can make easily at home or buy it ready made.


poi sock

poi sock








  • jumping jacks exercise -straightforward jumping while moving arms and legs
  • Wheel-barrow exercise : hold the child legs and have him walk on his hands around the house .
  • Putting legs on the wall while the child’s hands are the floor.


 Balance :
  • Using a balancing board while hitting a ball which is tied to the ceiling  variation: throwing and catching ballons while on the balancing board –
  • Walking on a beam – there is no need to purchase a beam as you can practice walking in a straight line on pavements outside or in the park.
  • Walking on colored stones –  helps children build confidence when jumping, judging distances, coordinating and balancing










  • Working on inward/outward position of the toes : we did so with a pigeon/duck walk chart I created .



duck pigeon walk

duck pigeon walk









  • Stretchy arm bands or resistance band, they are really great to have at different resistance levels as they can help with motor planning, hand-eye coordination, proprioception and spatial awareness.
  • Pointy dog exercise (Bird dog) 
  • Superman excercise 
  • Marching straight in line with fingers pointing up – this exercise helps with  directionality.
Resources for logical thinking :

*Geoboard – great little board that helps with directionality creativity and mesuring distances as well









  • Wooden blocks: Here are some examples for possible structures, the child might find it overwhelming at the beginning so I would recommend to start with an easy setup











  • Parquetry blocks – geometrical shapes that can be sorted in as part of a picture or pattern
  • “Thinkfun pathwords” – word game good for spatial orientation , directionality etc..








There are few other games from ‘Think fun’ which also contribute to directionality and spatial orientation .


  • Q-bitz: a visual challenge game.









Resources for writing :
  • Pelican pencils , tried a variety of pencil grip but found the pelican pencil the best for my kids as its stable and sturdy.
  • There are many  resources out there which are aimed at helping children in learning to write . I have tried some which combine music and learning  but I have found out that there is a set of basic skills a child has to have before he or she are ready to write.
  • The visual skills are focusing , tracking  and teaming making sure both eyes are working together to be able to learn to write .When the child is ‘Ready to learn’ I found  ‘writing without tears’  to be  a good resource.
Oral resources to help in articulation and speech :
  • Chewy necklaces and Ark grabber both are chewy but the arc is thicker and helps in jaw movement, tongue movement, and oral exploration.
    mouthing, and oral motor development.
  • Blowing and making bubbles using different size of straws
  • Whistles : variety of different kinds .(recommended resource kit
  • Blowing a variety of balloons from different sizes and shapes
  • Baby chewy toys
  • Sucking non sugar lollies (organic lollipops)helps to develop the muscles in our mouth
  • Using a mirror moving the tongue in circles after putting fruity lip-balm / putting one lip over the other sucking lips inwards and pulling tongue out
  • Using electric tooth brush on the lips for sensory input
Speech and Language :
  • Games for WH questions : super duper publications have got a verity of games for Speach and language
  • Auditory workout App: this is a wonderful application designed for children with auditory processing disorder .
  • Learning to sequence : 6 set scene game by ‘Carson Dellosa’ publishing
  • Social stories : creating social stories . I created some , one of them appears on Amazon , it was a story dealing with friendship and competition brother rivalry and relationship I offer it for FREE on this page.
  • Black sheep publications offer games that help in problem solving , imagination and prediction.
  • Tell tale – card  game that encourage imagination and creativity together with communication skills.
  • What a performance – perform a variety of noises, actions and activities to help children express themselves in a unique way.


  • Metronome- clapping hands at the right rhyhem and developing awareness to sound and music.
  • ‘Loopz Shifter’ game :  An action memory game that used light and sounds to help in memorizing the steps.


loops shifter

loopz shifter








Anxiety :


Craniosacral therapy

Craniosacral therapy











  • Nutrition : healthy diet helps in revealing stress avoiding process foods added sugar and white flour.


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