Is there a right time end a therapy?
Throughout my journey with Guy , I’ve always been involved with therapists of one discipline or another. The vast majority of them have been amazing , demonstrating their dedication to the cause at every turn , acting as my anchor in the storm and enabling me to retain my sanity when frustration was about to envelop me.
Many of them have empowered me and truly changed my life, teaching me about practices and approaches I would never have previously dreamed of.
There is a misconception many parents fall into believing that just because someone is trained as a therapist , their offer and the way they work will suit you or your child all the time.
That’s not to say that they are bad or poor therapists: rather that their approach doesn’t sit comfortably with you. There are many different paths or methodologies a therapist can follow in order to achieve a desired outcome, and it may just be that the way they work doesn’t gel with the way you do .
Consequently, choosing someone who is suitable for your purposes can be a hit or miss , particularly when you’re starting out and have no real knowledge or understanding of what it is you’re looking for and a clear plan on how you should get there.
Ending a therapy is an emotional process and we often don’t always feel ready to do so especially as we have been in a certain therapy for years and find it hard to end similar to any relationship that doesn’t benefit us anymore.
I fell into this exact same paradigm: I had a FloorTime therapist for 6 years, the first three years were beneficial, I have seen many changes and progress throughout this period so I continued on.
The following three years weren’t that good, the same methods and materials were repeated and the benefit to my son was minimal – and yet I found it hard to end .
I was dependent on that therapist and was blinded thinking that I would be lost if we stopped the sessions.
Once I stopped the sessions I was emotionally free to assess and rethink the right path to progress, I was proud of myself for having the strength to stop the session while keeping in good relationship with the therapist.
There are few red flags parents should consider while their child is undergoing any type of therapy or treatment.
– If the therapist avoids your questions or if you are not happy with the answers you are getting when discussing the goals or program to achieve targets
– Bad communication with the therapist- you know you’ll never be able to communicate with him or her openly.
– Therapist disrespects your child or being impatient when the child is misbehaving or not being cooperative. – after all it’s the therapist job to help you deal with the emotions that are the basis of this behavior, your child might not be able to verbalize the way he or she feels towards the therapy and or the therapist and the expectation is that the therapist will be able to deal with it in a creative way.
– The Therapist wants to keep the child in therapy services for indefinite time periods with ill -defined goals –every therapy or treatment are due to achieve progress and they should end once the targets are met.
– There is no actual program or progress summary the therapists repeats the same content of sessions frequently without making changes or adding challenges to the program – remember, if the therapist doesn’t challenge the child in a positive way there will not be a progress.
-You reach a plateau- if you feel that the sessions are not beneficial stop it for a couple of weeks or a month to let you assess the situation and check for yourself the benefit of the treatment.
It’s recommended to have a diary to record the progress made. A diary is an excellent tool to monitor the progress on a weekly basis for you to feel on top of the therapy goals and targets, assess where you are now and where do you see the therapy going towards.
Treat the therapy as a project you manage to get results in a defined period of time. You should ask yourself the following questions:
What are the next actions?
Am I going in the right way to get the results I want to get?
Is my child cooperating well with the therapist?
Is there a shorter way to achieve my goals?
Do I see the progress I anticipated to see before the treatment started? If not why not?
What are the ‘road blocks’ in the therapy?
what can I do today to remove the obstacles and get a crystal clear view regarding the therapy or treatment’s goals and progress made?
It is natural to lose control over the therapy goals especially when the therapy extends over years and there a mutual trust with the therapist, the therapist should be honest enough to stop the sessions when it’s time to do so however in many cases it’s not being done and the treatment can prolong for years without much progress. I hope that after reading this article you will have the tools to cut the cord when its time to do so.
Always remember one door closes and another opens it’s true for so many situations in life and especially when it comes to therapy treatments and relationships.